Love is not your mind

Only when your mind is quiet, only when your mind is not hoping, requesting, searching, dominating, envious or anxious, only when your mind is fully calm can love be possible. When when your mind is not reflecting your ego, not searching for its unique feeling,request, urge or hidden fear, not searching for self actualization or being entangled by certain beliefs, love is possible.

We only know that love is a feeling, my child, my wife, my possession, my knowledge, my success, but that is anther isolation process. We have all sorts of isolation in our life, it is the drive for self closure in mental and emotional states, only occasionally we would communicate with others, this is why love is a big problem. To really communicate with a person, you need to love him or her. When you love certain things or people, you would exchange with that person.

Our mind is a tool for comparison. When you are comparing one person to the other, you make others lose their dignity. Only when I am not comparing you to others, I only care about you, not the others - there is no comparison and it brings people dignity.

In the aspect of acquiring knowledge, we imitate but we don't create, it is only second hand or third hand experience. We repeat, repeat what others have said so we only have little thinking. So we don't have initiative, creative, energy and freedom. Also in emotional aspect, we don't have passion, or deep interest. We might have passion but it soon fades away; without consistent passion, our life becomes mechanic, knowledgeable and everyday repeating the same thing.

However when we are looking at good art work or literature work, it is not about the theme, but the quality. Simply looking at it will bring a high pleasure and joy. When you look at it, it has a strong aesthetic sense, you see the incredible quality of the things. And then the thoughts created happiness, bring it energy and continuity. Therefore when you look at the artwork, the feelings appear.
When you have seen the sunset, you are not happy, but you see the beauty in things, they are always glamorous, colourful and in-depth. When you leave that scene and return to life, your thoughts is like "There is an incredible thing, I wish I could have this experience again.

When our soul is eager to love, the action of love and imagine what love is like, there won't be love, because you give an intention to love. You are creating the behaviorial aspects for love. Love is the desire for something. But you can't own someone, you are only dependent on the feeling to possess someone to make you feel great. It is true that when you are attracted by someone, you want to be close with him or her.  But when you label him /her as yours, you don't want them to be interested in others, is that still love? No it is not, when you are drawing a fence among people, like labeling them as yours, there is no love.